You want to strengthen your self-confidence and appear more self-assured? Then you've come to the right place! People who are convinced of their own abilities and value enjoy many advantages in everyday life. Only logical! After all, they pursue clear goals and stand up for the things that make them tick and that they want to achieve. However, sayings like "just be more confident" are easy to say when one's self-esteem is currently somewhat tarnished due to certain circumstances. Fortunately, self-confidence and dealing with stressful and challenging situations can be trained.
In this article, I would like to introduce you to valuable tips that you can use to strengthen your self-confidence - both internally and externally. Let's go!
In advance, here is a brief overview for you:
- Realize that nothing can happen to you
- Work on your posture
- Learn to laugh at yourself
- Be grateful for the things you have
- Put the focus on having fun
- Learn to speak your mind
- Get rid of negative thoughts
- Address embarrassing moments
- Bring structure into your everyday life
- Train your body for unpleasant situations
1. realize that nothing can happen to you
Often it is fears that keep our self-confidence in check. For example, the fear of getting into an embarrassing situation, the fear of not being liked by others, or the general fear of the unknown. Instead, learn specifically to keep these fears of possible mistakes and their consequences in check - because as long as they dominate you, you can't expect to walk through the world brimming with self-confidence and smiling.
Being confident also means doing things as a matter of course that others (or your former self) tend to find embarrassing or uncomfortable. Let your feelings run free and make it clear to yourself that there is no danger. Mistakes are allowed and there to learn. Moreover, they are usually not even noticed, because no one pays as much attention to you as you do. If there really is such a thing as a danger, then at most that of missing great and instructive opportunities and experiences because of your fears.
2. work on your posture
Did you know that one's own attitude is quite decisive for the Influence on psychological well-being has? After all, a slumped sitting posture or a sad, depressed gait does not exactly speak for a person with high self-esteem who is convinced of himself.
Instead you should show yourself instead of hiding. Go a little faster and more purposefully and heed the classic tips of our parents: "Chest out!", "Head up!", "Back straight!" and "Belly in!" - not for nothing they always preached these sayings before important life events. Oh, and don't forget to smile! Even if you don't feel like it, it has a positive effect on your mind.
You can improve your posture mainly by Regular movement work. Ride bike and make regular walksgo swimming... there are so many possibilities. If your job doesn't allow for much movement, you should also consciously take time to practice a straight sitting position. Working at a standing desk, as well as stretching your neck muscles regularly can also help.
Tip: Perhaps the so-called power posing is also something for you. It describes the assumption of a space-occupying posture. However, a connection between this pose and actual self-confidence has not been confirmed from a scientific point of view.
3. learn to laugh at yourself
As I said, mistakes are allowed! Learn from them - and learn to laugh about your mistakes and also quirks. Don't be too serious to yourself. With this mindset, nothing will make you lose your cool, even in unpleasant situations. Not expecting to be perfect or needing to be perfectbut to radiate honest strength even in imperfect moments - that is true self-confidence.
Depending on the situation, you can even train your self-confidence by telling an embarrassing story from your past, for example. This is really easy to laugh at yourself - and at the same time you confirm that you are confident in dealing with your mistakes.
Tip: Stop comparing yourself to other (and only seemingly perfect) people. Nobody is perfect - and nobody has to be perfect. However, as long as you believe you have to be perfect, every "mistake" will weaken your self-confidence.
4. be grateful for the things you have
Actually, you're doing pretty well, but you still feel like you're lacking something? Instead of wanting more and more, you should be grateful for what you already have.
"It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy."Francis Bacon (more at Gratitude Quotes)
Owning a Ferrari is not a life goal - and Consumption does not make happy and if at all only artificially self-confident! After all, being able to spend a lot of money does not mean that you are self-confident. It is real friendships or the Time outside in the great outdoors, which increase our mental well-being and also our self-confidence
5. put the focus on having fun
How exhausting it must be to want to make sure EVERYONE likes you every day. This is impossible in the long run - eventually, someone probably even hates your positivity (especially nowadays).
At some point, the day comes and then this less than satisfactory information scratches at your own self-confidence. As soon as you open your eyes in the morning, you'd better concentrate on having fun. Then both your sympathy values and your self-confidence will really get going.
"Nothing in the world is as contagious as laughter and good humor."Charles Dickens (more at Joy of Life Quotes)
Give compliments, make yourself and others laugh. Tell a joke and put Questions to get to knowthat no one else asks. Be different from the average - not completely crazy, but positively crazy, open, honest and funny.
6. learn to speak your mind
Many people do not stand up for their opinions, but try to swim inconspicuously with the crowd. Often out of fear of saying or doing something stupid or embarrassing. This is the opposite of self-confidence! If you have a certain opinion, then you should also express, justify and represent it. But do not frantically try to find other Convince people and be open to changing your mind if the counter-arguments are coherent.
But be sure to also learn "Saying "Noif something doesn't suit you. After all, you also accept the "no" of other people.
However, I also understand something else by "speaking one's mind". For example, that you compliment othersthat you give the benefit of the doubt, why you live vegan or that you don't look away when someone is being harassed. That, too, is self-confident action, courage and trust in yourself.
7. get rid of negative thoughts
Whether "I alone can not change anything anyway", "that already went wrong last time" or "I can't do that" - negative thoughts and beliefs keep you from doing great things that can boost your self-confidence. They make opportunities look like dangers, so that dreams are shattered before you can even talk about them or tackle them.
"What you think you create, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you become."Buddha (more at Buddha Quotes)
So think positive! You are not alone if you want to improve something in the world, you can learn from mistakes and approach projects differently on the second try - and you can train and learn things! Be brave and open instead of stubborn, fearful and judgmental. That's what self-confidence is all about.
8. address embarrassing moments
Laughing at yourself is a way for more confidence -. but in unpleasant moments directly point out (own) embarrassmentswhile everyone else stares at the floor in embarrassment and silence, the other. In this way you prove that it is your strength to deal confidently with your weaknesses. The form of self-confidence can also be learned.
9. bring structure into your everyday life
Your private and professional everyday life is relatively disorganized and unmanageable? This leads at least subconsciously to constant stresswhich makes it difficult to master challenges and implement plans. However, positive experiences strengthen your self-confidence! So make sure you have a certain structure - and also take time for yourself.
For example, keep a physical calendaron which you record notes and appointments. Think and live more minimalist and focus on the things that are truly essential for you to be happy and ultimately more confident. The new overview will help you Make life easier, promised!
10. train your body for unpleasant situations
Fortunately, you can prepare yourself for unpleasant situations and train sovereign behavior. For absolute coolness in appropriate moments, however, not only the body posture is crucial. Also the Breathing plays a big role.
"Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor."Thích Nhất Hạnh (more at Mindfulness Quotes)
Therefore make Breathing exercises for preparation. Take regular deep breaths in and out and feel into your body. Yoga, Pilates or mindfulness exercises can guide you. Also the Meditation can not only strengthen your immune system - but also grow your self-confidence. Why? Because you will literally become "self-aware" and you will be able to live more mindful.
Become more confident with simple tips!
It is tremendous fun to be convinced of your own abilities, but at the same time to be able to laugh about your own weaknesses or mistakes. When you draw your self-worth from yourself - and not only from the things you buy - it is also a real, long-term self-confidence that will make you appear much more stable in all situations of your life.
I sincerely hope that the tips from this post provide you with a real dose of self-confidence and empower you. Do you have any questions, tips, or your own experiences with boosting your self-esteem that you'd like to share? If so, I'm really looking forward to your comment!
PS: Sooner or later, permanent stress gnaws away at your own self-worth. How you can improve your personal or professional Everyday life becomes much more relaxedI will now explain this to you in the linked article.