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125 questions to get to know each other and keep the conversation going

Looking for casual questions to get to know each other and keep a conversation going? Then you are absolutely right here! Everyone knows this moment in conversations where you run out of things to talk about. An extremely awkward silence is the result, where you stare bashfully at your water glass. Very few questions can be as awkward as this moment.

Therefore, in this article I would like to introduce you to simple and useful questions for getting to know each other in various everyday situations. Ask them to friends, your partner, professional contacts, your parents or children to keep your conversations going. Have fun!

Here is another brief overview of this article:

Why do you need questions that sustain and loosen up a conversation?

Perhaps the topic in my blog may seem rather "off-topic" to you. Here I would like to show you briefly what it has to do with the topics of sustainability and health and how you can benefit from the questions to get to know each other.

  • Getting to know new facets of others: When you think you know everything about the other person, you quickly run out of steam. Promising questions suddenly reveal things that surprise you.
  • Variety: Always talking about the weather is terribly boring. By asking specific questions, you bring in a breath of fresh air.
  • Maintain interest: You don't want to talk to boring people and about boring topics of conversation forever. Your questions can, for example, help to make other people aware of environmental issues such as the Zero Waste Lifestyle or the vegan life to inspire.
  • Helping others: Everyone has their cross to bear. Your questions can, for example, reveal concerns and problems of your counterpart, which you can eliminate and solve together. Either way, they encourage you to question things that you would otherwise not have questioned.
  • Become more confident: Do you know the situation of thinking excitedly about what you could talk about before you even start a conversation? That no longer exists with all these conversation-stimulating questions.

For sure, there are dozens of other reasons. For me, the most important thing is that getting-to-know-you questions liven up any conversation, make people happy, encourage questioning, and bring exciting things to light.

Notice: Even though I have assigned them to the topics "Partner", "Friends", "Smalltalk", "Business", "Parents" and "Children", you can of course mix up the questions. Because most of them don't fit into just one category.

125 questions to keep your conversations going

Now that it's clear why this article can be so useful for your everyday life, let's get started. Here are the best questions, to loosen up and keep your conversations going. Let's go!

Questions to get to know your partner

Questions to get to know each other and fluent conversations to partners

Over time, you think you know each other inside and out. But even about your partner you can still learn a lot of new things. Just use the following questions as conversation starters:

  • What would you change about this restaurant if you were the boss?
  • Which person - dead or alive - would you insanely like to invite to dinner at our place?
  • What was the craziest kid name you ever heard?
  • How old do you most want to be?
  • In what condition would you never want to see me?
  • If you have a specific Environmental and social problem could solve in one fell swoop - which one would it be?
  • What was the reason you used to skip school?
  • You can look into the future for a minute - what would you want to know right now?
  • You can choose your name freely - what would your name be?
  • Do you believe in destiny?
  • Is it important to you that others find you nice?
  • Have you ever been in contact with drugs?
  • What is the worst thing you have ever done to a person?
  • What word do you think I use too often?
  • Would you like to be with yourself?
  • Is there a person you never want to speak a word to again?
  • What was the worst gift you ever gave someone?
  • Which characteristic would you like me to have - and which not?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • What question do you never want to get an answer to?
  • Why do we eat cows, pigs and chickens - but pet dogs and cats?
  • When was the last time you did absolutely nothing for a day?

Questions for more conversation with friends

Questions for friends get to know

Are you and your friends running out of things to talk about? You can remedy this directly with the following questions for getting to know each other:

  • What was your scariest vacation?
  • What was the most absurd trend you participated in - for whatever reason?
  • What things are really driving you up the wall at the moment?
  • What were your most embarrassing fashion sins?
  • Do you think that animals are here WITH us or FOR us on earth?
  • In which situation have you been really lucky?
  • What was the most criminal thing you ever did?
  • Do you believe in a conspiracy theory? If so, which one?
  • What do you spend the most money on in your everyday life?
  • Sea or mountains?
  • What would you like to change about your life?
  • Rather honest or nice?
  • What is the meaning of life?
  • Summer or winter?
  • Would you rather be called something else - if so, what?
  • Would you say it's wrong, Torture animals?
  • Village or city?
  • Do you think you are a good role model for others? If so, why?
  • Would you rather cry or smash something?
  • Have you ever had a fight with someone?
  • How long does your cell phone battery last - and what does it spend the most time on?
  • What's your biggest secret?
  • Have you ever had a more serious injury or illness?
  • Do you have nice feet for flip flops?
  • How is your relationship with your parents?
  • When was the last time you cried?
  • What was the coolest experience of your life?
  • You are stranded on a desert island - what do you do?
  • Who was the dorkiest person you ever met?
  • Do we ever want to go on vacation - if so, where?
  • What role does money play in your life?

Notice: With open questions, you are most likely to get the most out of your conversation partner. But sometimes closed questions can also be a real door opener.

Questions to get to know each other through small talk

Do you sometimes have trouble keeping the conversation going when you meet new people? Here are some questions that provide plenty of new, exciting conversation topics:

  • Who are you here with?
  • What are you currently working on and why?
  • Where do you live and what is your favorite place in the city?
  • Where did you get those shoes/sweater etc?
  • What kind of music can you really get down with?
  • What quote inspires you most? (Recommendation: Sustainability Quotes)
  • You have 4 hours more time in the day - what would you do?
  • What do you give up for the climate?
  • Are you a good cook? If so, what do you like to cook the most?
  • What is your secret talent?
  • You can't fall asleep at night - what do you watch?
  • When was the last time you laughed at yourself?
  • What are you burning for?
  • Which website do you spend the most time on?
  • Which sport do you enjoy the most?
  • What are your plans for today?
  • How do you end the day today?

Questions for casual conversations with professional contacts

Questions to get to know in the business environment

The next lunch break with colleagues or the next exciting trade fair event is coming up. But what could you talk about? I've put together a few conversation-opening questions for you:

  • If you had to recommend one app, what would it be?
  • Suppose you had 100,000 euros and had to spend it in a week: what would you do?
  • What was the last book you read?
  • What is your absolute favorite series?
  • Would you say you eat healthy?
  • You can choose a stage name - what would it be?
  • What movies and series do you celebrate?
  • You need to emigrate - which country is your first choice?
  • Which country do you really want to visit?
  • What was your worst bad investment?
  • Why do people live vegan?
  • You will become Chancellor - What is your first official act?
  • Which sound can you imitate particularly well?
  • What superstitious things do you do?
  • On a scale of 1 - 10 - how bad is German TV programming?
  • What was the most embarrassing situation in your life?
  • What was your last good deed?
  • Which three things are currently most important to you?
  • Are you usually early or late?
  • Your house is on fire - what item do you definitely save?
  • What's bugging you the most right now?

Questions to get to know parents

Keeping conversations going with parents

When you've lived at home with your parents for a long time, you think you know everything about them. But there are still plenty of questions to learn more about them and make conversations more exciting. Here are some examples:

  • What does friendship mean to you?
  • How was your first kiss?
  • What was the craziest thing you ever did?
  • You have 100 Euro left - for what purpose do you donate it?
  • Do you sing when you drive?
  • Would you say that you love animals?
  • What do you like most about your life?
  • When was the last time you lied?
  • You have tomorrow off. What have you always wanted to do?
  • Was I more of a bully or a good kid?
  • Who came closest to making your life what it is today?
  • What did you wish for my life when I was born?
  • A movie about your life - what song would be the soundtrack?
  • What bothers you about digitization?
  • What do you like to spend money on?
  • What would you do differently if you were 18 again?
  • What was the worst thing that ever happened to you?
  • How many apartments have you lived in?
  • What do you miss the most compared to before?
  • What do you spend most of your time doing?
  • If you could change something in the world right now, what would it be?

Questions for children to get to know

Questions for children to get to know each other and have good conversations

You want to get to know your child even better? Then simply use the following questions:

  • Which YouTube channel do you like to watch the most?
  • What are you most afraid of?
  • You can choose a superpower - which one is it and why?
  • What is your favorite joke?
  • What makes a good friend?
  • Which is your favorite Disney movie?
  • You can be a wild animal from now on - which one would you be?
  • Why did you have to laugh really loud last time?
  • On which internet site do you spend most of your time?
  • What word comes immediately to mind when you think of me?
  • What was the last thing you dreamed about?
  • You can choose a profession - what would it be?
  • What do you find particularly disgusting?
  • What have you done really well recently?
  • Who or what are you currently most angry about?

Can you think of other effective questions to ask about each topic? Then just write me a comment!

Use questions to get to know each other in everyday life

If you answered all of these questions, someone else would already know a lot more about you. Whenever you feel like it, you can use them to get to know people better, to spark and maintain interest in a particular topic, and to get conversations going. And if your conversations ever drift into awkward silences? Yes, then you can still confidently ask what irritates your counterpart 😉

Can you think of any other questions about getting to know us? Then share them in the comments!

Stay talkative,

Christoph from CareElite - Plastic-free living

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Christoph Schulz

I'm Christoph, an environmental scientist and author - and here at CareElite I'm campaigning against plastic waste in the environment, climate change and all the other major environmental problems of our time. Together with other environmentally conscious bloggers, I want to give you tips & tricks for a naturally healthy, sustainable life as well as your personal development.

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