Do you want to boost your self-confidence and appear more self-assured? Then you've come to the right place! People who are convinced of their own abilities and value enjoy many advantages in everyday life. It's only logical! After all, they pursue clear goals and stand up for the things that define them and that they want to achieve. But sayings like "just be more self-confident" are easy to say when your own self-esteem is a little shaky at the moment due to certain circumstances. Fortunately, self-confidence and dealing with stressful and challenging situations can be trained.
In this article, I would therefore like to introduce you to some valuable tips that you can use to boost your self-confidence - both internally and externally. Let's go!
Here is a brief overview for you in advance:
- Realize that nothing can happen to you
- Work on your posture
- Learn to laugh at yourself
- Be grateful for the things you have
- Focus on having fun
- Learn to speak your mind
- Free yourself from negative thoughts
- Address embarrassing moments
- Bring structure into your everyday life
- Train your body for unpleasant situations
1. realize that nothing can happen to you
It is often fears that keep our self-confidence in check. For example, the fear of maneuvering yourself into an embarrassing situation, the fear of not being liked by others or the general fear of the unknown. Instead, specifically learn to keep these fears of possible mistakes and their consequences in check - because as long as they dominate you, you can't expect to walk through the world brimming with confidence and smiling.
Being self-confident also means doing things as a matter of course that others (or your former self) find embarrassing or unpleasant. Let your feelings run free and realize that there is no danger. Mistakes are allowed and are there for you to learn from. What's more, they are usually not even noticeable because no one is paying as much attention to you as you are. If there really is such a thing as danger, then it's the risk of missing out on great and instructive opportunities and experiences because of your fears.
2. work on your posture
Did you know that one's own attitude is quite decisive for the Influence on psychological well-being has? After all, a slumped posture or a sad, depressed gait does not exactly speak of a confident person with high self-esteem.
Instead you should show yourself instead of hiding. Walk a little faster and more purposefully and take our parents' classic tips to heart: "Chest out!", "Head up!", "Back straight!" and "Tummy in!" - it's not for nothing that they always preached these sayings before important life events. Oh, and don't forget to smile! Even if you don't feel like it, it has a positive effect on your mind.
You can improve your posture above all by Regular exercise work. Ride bike and make Regular walksgo swimming... there are so many options. If your job doesn't allow much movement, you should also consciously take time to train yourself to sit up straight. Working at a standing desk and regularly stretching your neck muscles can also help.
Tip: Power posing might also be something for you. It describes the adoption of a space-occupying posture. However, a connection between this pose and actual self-confidence has not been scientifically confirmed.
3. learn to laugh at yourself
As I said, mistakes are allowed! Learn from them - and learn to laugh about your mistakes and quirks. Don't be too serious with yourself. This mindset will keep you calm even in unpleasant situations. Not expecting to be perfect or needing to be perfectbut also to radiate honest strength in imperfect moments - that is true self-confidence.
Depending on the situation, you can even train your confidence by telling an embarrassing story from your past, for example. It's really easy to laugh at - and at the same time you confirm that you are confident in dealing with your mistakes.
Tip: Stop comparing yourself to other (and only seemingly perfect) people. Nobody is perfect - and nobody has to be perfect. However, as long as you believe you have to be perfect, every "mistake" will weaken your self-confidence.
4. be grateful for the things you have
Are you actually doing pretty well, but you still feel like you're lacking something? Instead of wanting more and more, you should be grateful for what you already have.
"It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy."
Francis Bacon (more at Gratitude Quotes)
Owning a Ferrari is not a life goal - and Consumption does not make you happy and if at all only artificially self-confident! Being able to spend a lot of money does not mean that you are self-confident. It's real friendships or the Time outside in the great outdoors, which increase our mental well-being and also our self-confidence
5. focus on having fun
How exhausting it must be to want to make sure that EVERYONE likes you every day. That's impossible in the long run - in the end, someone probably even hates your positivity (especially nowadays).
At some point, the day comes and this less than satisfying information scratches at your self-confidence. As soon as you open your eyes in the morning, you should concentrate on having fun. Then both your likeability ratings and your self-confidence will really get going.
"Nothing in the world is as contagious as laughter and good humor."
Charles Dickens (more at Joy of Life Quotes)
Give compliments, make yourself and others laugh. Tell a joke and introduce Questions to get to knowthat no one else asks. Be different from the average person - not completely crazy, but positively crazy, open, honest and funny.
6. learn to speak your mind
Many people do not stand up for their opinions, but try to swim inconspicuously with the crowd. Often out of fear of saying or doing something stupid or embarrassing. That is the opposite of self-confidence! If you have a certain opinion, then you should express, justify and defend it. But do not frantically try to find other Convince people and be open to changing your mind if the counterarguments are valid.
But be sure to also learn "Saying "Noif something doesn't suit you. After all, you also accept other people's "no".
However, I also understand something else by "speaking one's mind". For example, that you compliment othersthat you explain in case of doubt, why you live vegan or that you don't look the other way when someone is being harassed. This is also self-confident action, courage and trust in yourself.
7. free yourself from negative thoughts
Whether "I alone can't change anything anyway", "that went wrong last time" or "I can't do that" - negative thoughts and beliefs stop you from doing great things that can boost your self-confidence. They make opportunities look like threats, so that dreams shatter before you've even had a chance to say or tackle them.
"What you think you create, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you become."
Buddha (more at Buddha Quotes)
So think positively! You are not alone if you want to improve something in the world, you can learn from mistakes and tackle projects differently on the second attempt - and you can train and learn things! Be courageous and open instead of stubborn, fearful and prejudiced. That's what self-confidence is all about.
8. address embarrassing moments
Laughing at yourself is one way to increase your self-confidence - but in unpleasant moments directly point out (own) embarrassmentswhile everyone else stares at the floor in embarrassment and silence, the other one. This proves that you are strong enough to deal with your weaknesses confidently. This form of self-confidence can also be learned.
9. bring structure into your everyday life
Is your private and professional life relatively disorganized and unmanageable? This leads to at least subconsciously to constant stresswhich makes it difficult to master challenges and implement plans. However, positive experiences strengthen your self-confidence! So make sure you have a certain structure - and also take time for yourself.
For example, keep a physical calendaron which you keep notes and appointments. Think and live more minimalist and focus on the things that are really essential for you to be happy and ultimately more self-confident. The new overview will help you Make life easier, promised!
10. train your body for unpleasant situations
Fortunately, you can prepare yourself for unpleasant situations and train confident behavior. However, it's not just your posture that is crucial for keeping your cool in such situations. The Breathing plays a major role.
"Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor."
Thích Nhất Hạnh (more at Mindfulness Quotes)
Therefore make Breathing exercises to prepare. Breathe in and out deeply on a regular basis and feel into your body. Yoga, Pilates or mindfulness exercises can guide you. The Meditation can not only strengthen your immune system - but also increase your self-confidence. Why? Because you become 'self-aware' in the truest sense of the word and live more mindful.
Become more confident with simple tips!
It's great fun to be convinced of your own abilities, but also to be able to laugh at your own weaknesses or mistakes. When you draw your self-worth from yourself - and not just from the things you buy - it is also a real, long-term self-confidence that will make you much more stable in all situations in your life.
I very much hope that the tips in this article will give you a real dose of self-confidence and strengthen you. Do you have any questions, tips or your own experiences with boosting your self-esteem that you would like to share? Then I look forward to your comment!
Stay self-confident,
PS: Sooner or later, constant stress will eat away at your self-esteem. How to deal with stress in your private or professional life Everyday life becomes much more relaxedI will now explain in the linked article.
Hello Christoph,
in your article the point 6. to speak his mind.
This is already a strong point, which I underestimated at first.
Only gradually did I manage to voice my opinion.
Recognition is also an important point, according to the old saying, if I don't say anything to the contrary, it was Ok.
So a big field for exercises.
Sincerely
George